12 Things to Never Tell Anyone About
Your Relationship
While it can be
relaxing and fun to talk to your friends about your relationship, some things
should never leave the confines of your bedroom and your home. Being in a committed relationship is all about trusting the person you’re
with and keeping
relationship secrets, a secret. Once trust is broken, it’s very difficult to
gain it back – so ideally, you never want to find yourself in that unpleasant
situation.
Why do we have the
impulse to tell our friends the dirty details of our relationships? There are
different reasons – sometimes it’s to brag and sometimes it’s to vent. But
other times, we don’t know what relationship secrets are appropriate to share
and which ones are not. Airing your relationship’s dirty laundry in the open
can lead to broken
hearts and an irreparable loss of trust. Take a look at this handy
go-to list about a few things to never tell others about your relationship.
HERE ARE 12 THINGS TO NEVER TELL ANYONE ABOUT YOUR
RELATIONSHIP
“The biggest guru-mantra is:
never share your secrets with anybody. It will destroy you.” – Chanakya
1. MONEY
Whether you’re doing well or doing horribly, it’s none of your
friends’ business what your partner earns or how you pay the bills every month.
Money is a very touchy subject in society these days, so you want to make sure
you’re staying on the right side of those conversations. To be honest, that’s
one of the few things on this list that you’re more likely to get asked than to
volunteer yourself. In short, it’s none of your friends’ business, and it
should stay that way.
2. THE FACT THAT THEY DISLIKE ONE OF YOUR FRIENDS
It’s in our nature
as human beings that we simply can’t get along with everyone. If your partner
tells you that they don’t like someone from your inner circle, they’re sharing
that with you in confidence. Spreading such information around causes tension
on both sides of your relationship. In the worst cases, you might be forced to
choose between your friendship circle and your significant other. Spare
yourself the trouble and keep your partner’s
opinions to yourself.
3. BAD GIFTS
This is one of the
things to never tell about a relationship. Picking gifts for people – even if
it’s someone you know really well – is a talent that not everyone has. If your
significant other has given you socks that don’t fit you or a piece of jewelry
that you absolutely hate but still resign yourself to wearing for
anniversaries, don’t tell others. It’ll just make them look
stupid. Also, if word gets back to them, they’ll feel even worse knowing that
you hated your present so much you had to tell your friends.
4. FIGHTS
It’s always
unpleasant to fight with your significant other, so why relive the fight by talking about it with someone else? Not only is it, in a
way, airing your dirty laundry, but it’s also a sign that you probably haven’t
gotten over that fight yet. Let it go and get over it, and if you need to talk
to anyone about it – talk to your partner.
5. INTIMATE DETAILS
What
happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom and that’s how it
needs to be. Even if you’re having problems, there’s no way to stay positive about solving them if you keep thinking
about them. Besides, think of
the way your friends will start seeing your significant other after you tell
them something so private. These relationship secrets should be kept private.
Give your partner some dignity and save your intimacy to yourself.
6. STORIES ABOUT THE AWFUL IN-LAWS
When saying something negative, always think about how those words
might come back and bite you. Some people aren’t lucky enough to have in-laws.
Sure, you’re under no obligation to like them, but if you have a problem, talk
to them, and not behind their back. Besides, if your significant other hears
your gripes, it will only cause resentment and hurt feelings.
7. THEIR SECRETS
This one should be
obvious – relationship secrets are, after all, meant to stay between two people. But not everyone is that
cautious about betraying confidentiality. You’d be surprised just how many
people feel the need to betray someone’s deepest secret. Whether it’s a family
secret or something insignificant, the fact they’ve trusted you with it is
substantial – don’t waste it.
8. THEIR INSECURITIES
Everyone has them,
but not everyone wants them to be revealed. Your partner feels like they can be themselves around you and that’s a
rare gift. If you say that
they’re really insecure about something, it’ll attack their confidence because
they’ll think you see it as a flaw. Don’t betray them like that.
9. THEIR ODDITIES
Again, this is all about the other person being comfortable and
happy around you – enough to truly be themselves. If they like to sleep with
stuffed animals, so what? It’s their life and their choice. But it’s not
information they’ve volunteered to be public and there’s probably a good reason
for that.
10. CHEATING
That’s one that
others will definitely try and make their business. If
one of you cheated but you’re trying to move past it together,
keep this to yourselves. You might have enough love and forgiveness to forgive
and forget, but your friends will likely never move past it. They’ll be that
nagging voice in your head, personified. You definitely don’t need that in an
already complex and difficult circumstance.
11. YOUR TEXTS
This is one of the
things to never tell about a relationship. If your partner wanted to text your
best friend, chances are they would. Even if it seems insignificant, your texts are private correspondence and they should stay private. Besides, it makes you
look cheap in front of your friends – like you’re showing off with your
relationship.
12. DETAILS ABOUT THEIR PAST RELATIONSHIPS
Let bygones be
bygones and stop talking about their ex-partners with your friends. Your
partner is with you
now and that’s what matters. Your friends and family will over-analyze why
their last relationship failed and it’ll only make you more anxious. The key is
to keep up the positive thinking and remember that now you are
together.
FINAL THOUGHTS
Airing your dirty laundry in public is a big no-no in relationships
– but as long as you follow those simple rules of trust, you can be sure that
your partnership will be strong and stable for many years to come!
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