2017 End Of Year Message

Going through things you never thought you would go through will only take you places you never thought you will get to.
One day you will look back and see that all along you were blooming
Happy New year in advance
Much love from Peace Atulaegwu

The Gold Wrapping Paper- Inspirational Christmas story

The Gold Wrapping Paper - An Inspirational Short Christmas Story

Once upon a time, there was a man who worked very hard just to keep food on the table for his family. This particular year a few days before Christmas, he punished his little five-year-old daughter after learning that she had used up the family's only roll of expensive gold wrapping paper.

As money was tight, he became even more upset when on Christmas Eve he saw that the child had used all of the expensive gold paper to decorate one shoebox she had put under the Christmas tree. He also was concerned about where she had gotten money to buy what was in the shoebox.

Nevertheless, the next morning the little girl, filled with excitement, brought the gift box to her father and said, "This is for you, Daddy!"

As he opened the box, the father was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction, now regretting how he had punished her.

But when he opened the shoebox, he found it was empty and again his anger flared. "Don't you know, young lady," he said harshly, "when you give someone a present, there's supposed to be something inside the package!"

The little girl looked up at him with sad tears rolling from her eyes and whispered: "Daddy, it's not empty. I blew kisses into it until it was all full."

The father was crushed. He fell on his knees and put his arms around his precious little girl. He begged her to forgive him for his unnecessary anger.

An accident took the life of the child only a short time later. It is told that the father kept this little gold box by his bed for all the years of his life. Whenever he was discouraged or faced difficult problems, he would open the box, take out an imaginary kiss, and remember the love of this beautiful child who had put it there.

In a very real sense, each of us has been given an invisible golden box filled with unconditional love and kisses from our children, family, friends and God. There is no more precious possession anyone could hold.

How To Keep The Fire Burning in a Relationship

To keep the fire burning in your relationship, there are certain things everyone need to do every day.
Below are 6 things you should do daily to keep the fire burning in your relationship

Be spontaneous: “Being spontaneous in your relationship helps keep your relationship refreshing and exciting too, creating unexpected moments in your relationship daily will help prevent your relationship from stagnation”.
Don’t forget to say thank you: “When was the last time you told your partner thank you? I bet many can’t even remember, to keep the fire burning in your relationship, it’s important you appreciate your partner daily”.
Listen: “It’s amazing how something so easy as listening can be so difficult to do, learn to listen to your partner without being distracted by your phone; if you value your relationship, learn to listen to your partner without being distracted”.
Honesty at all times: “Being honest only when it’s convenient for you isn’t honesty, you also have to be honest with your partner even when it’s not convenient for you and that’s what it means to be honest”.

Love yourself: “How can you love your partner when you don’t know how to love yourself? Learn to do the things that make you happy and fulfilled always, your relationship will definitely benefit from you being happy and fulfilled”.
Tell your partner how much you love him or her: “Never let a day go by without letting your partner know how much you love him or her; if you are really serious about keeping the fire burning in your relationship, these three words “I love you” should be said to your partner daily and make sure you don’t just say it, mean it”.

I married into a wicked family, A lady cries out, after the following conversation took place between her and her mother in-law

The below Whatsapp conversation between a Wife and her mother-in-law is chilling and absurd.
The Whatsapp was shared with Relationship expert, Joro Olumofin.
The woman wrote;
“I am losing my mind. I am lonely and upset. I have been crying for weeks. I haven’t take a shower in 3 days my children are missing school. This is not the first time he’s doing it.
My husband has not been at home in 6 days now. He doesn’t even want to talk to me. The last time he left for 3 days but at least he was in communication with me. Then. Now hes not answering my calls and he’s active on social media. He blocked me so I won’t send him a message.
I used my friends page to view him. Joro we have 2 children together, what is this? I am so weak. I would have taken overdose if not for these children. To make matters worst his diabolical mother is now covering up for him and insulting me.
I have been tolerating her. I never knew she was this wicked. What do I do? I want to leave with my children and leave the house for him. I have my own money. I called his sister this morning who was also rude to me on the phone.
I married into a family of wickedness. I need to talk to someone. I can’t do this again. My son has been asking for his father. I am so weak. There’s this girl I think he’s with. She’s a corper but I don’t know her name or handle. I have been driving round to see where I can find him. God help me.”
Screenshots of the whatsapp chats below;

The rush for even the lowest paying jobs in the country now is alarming. The fact remains that there are jobs, but some job seekers can't just know how to get it
I am going to give you some funny methods that people i know personally have used to get jobs for themselves. it boils down to you to apply them. These secret ways are funny but true. You might find it amusing, but take time to think about it.

1. Offer to work for free:
If you know any top organization that is close to you or you think you wish to work for, submit your CV and state in your cover letter that you are willing to work for free. it will sound somehow but human psychology tells me that if you are accepted, you will most likely be paid something tangible . working for free give you an advantage of gaining work experience.
Along the line, if they find your presence very useful, it results to automatic employment. What a secret , but funny way to get that job. A friend tried it and he works with the company full-time now on a much higher pay-grade

2. Join a church department
This is one hell of a funny way to get a job in Nigeria. They will appreciate your hard work and will get to know more about you. Tell them the truth about yourself. No need to sugar coat your situation.

3. Approach Job agents
They are almost every around you. The difference between you and those guys are the fact that they possess powerful networks. those guys know lots of firms and most times they are the ones that recruit for the firms. i got  a job once upon a time through this funny method. meet them and negotiate with them; a job is a job as long as it pays the bills. I know that submitting a CV online and offline is great but you don't have the information those guys have.

4. Advertise yourself
This one is already common and we have seen it work. Anywhere you dim it fit to advertise drop the shame and do the needful. i wouldn't ask you to stand on the road with a cardboard sheet and shout, but there are other ways to pass your message across. i once saw a guy advertise his qualifications using facebook Ads which costs less than $3, and i believe you know the reach that it has. There are other online platforms that can really help you spread your message to potential employers. i even saw one advert on Naira land and i believe it worked for whoever posted it.
Do yourself a favour and think outside the box. if you don't blow your own trumpet, nobody will do that for you. There are other ways to get a Job in Nigeria, but i will drop at this junction , to those who have used a method before, do well to tell us more using the comment session thanks.

Ladies, If you notice These 9 Signs, Your Boyfriend Isn't Ready to Propose

Ever been in a relationship for too long? Here's how to know if your boyfriend will ever propose or not.
1. He avoids weddings
When a guy isn't squeamish about marriage, he will definitely become much more excited about attending weddings, and he will want you to come with him, if your man hates going to other people's nuptials, that's a good sign he isn't ready for his own.

2. He doesn't talk about getting married.
If you bring up the topic of marriage and he changes the subject as fast as possible, marriage isn't on his mind. if he has an aversion to the M-word , he's subtly letting you know that marriage probably isn't part of his plan in the foreseeable future. Likewise, when you are with other people and the topic of marriage or children is brought up, pay attention to how your boyfriend reacts. Does he quickly change the subject (bad) or does he ever say things like "When I get married..." (good)

3. He doesn't plan
If your boyfriend only makes plans for the immediate or short term, marriage likely isn't a priority. Perhaps he's always ready to make a date for this week or the weekend, but rarely commits to the distant future. if he's hesitant to make plans six months from now, your future together may not be a sure thing.

4. He comes up with excuses
Men are simple creatures. When they want something, you will know. if they are constantly making excuses about marriage or the future, it's time to realize that something's wrong. if he's too busy and stressed to talk about it, or he has too much going on to focus on buying a ring, your future together isn't looking so bright. Any excuse isn't a good thing. if your boyfriend blames his lack of interest in marriage on work or family, he isn't as eager to walk down the aisle as you are.

5. He says he's happy with the way things are
Plan and simple, if your man tells you he is happy with the way things are or he doesn't want to ruin the special relationship you have, he has no intention of taking your relationship to the next level.

6. He likes living in the past
Pay attention to what your boyfriend enjoys reminiscing about. Does he make references to how great the last vacation you guys took was? or does he constantly and longingly tell stories about his college days? if he enjoys talking about his breaks or mentions how much he misses going out every night with his friends , he's probably not mature enough to wed just yet.

7. He has no interest in your future.
When you mention your future, if he seems completely uninterested in what you have planned, he isn't looking to build a life together.

8. He prefers to hang out with other single men
Are your boyfriend's friends mostly married or mostly single? if he only wants to surround himself with happy bachelors instead of having a healthy mix of single and married friends, he's not rushing to take things to the next step

9. He hasn't mentioned starting a family
Men don't have a baby clock ticking like women do , nor do most men yearn for children the way some women do. In a man's brain, having a family is a natural thing that will happen once you are married. However, if he's unwillingly to discuss having a family, he may not be ready to walk down the aisle.

A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE, MAKES YOU THANKFUL

One day the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the express purpose of showing him how poor people live. They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family
On their return from their trip the father asked his son, how was the trip?
"It was great dad"
"Did you see how poor people live?"
The father asked.
"O yeah", said the son

"Did you see how poor people live?"
The father asked.
"Oh yeah" said the son.
"So tell me what did you learn from this Trip? "The father asked
The son answered "I saw that we have one dog and they had four".
We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end. we have imported lanterns in our garden and they have stars at night"

"Our Patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight"
"We have servants to serve us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but they grow theirs. we have walls around our property to protect us they have friends to protect them"

The boy's father was speechless. Then His son added "Thanks dad for showing me how poor we are"

ISN'T PERSPECTIVE A WONDERFUL THING? MAKES YOU WONDER WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IF WE ALL GAVE THANKS FOR EVERYTHING WE HAVE, INSTEAD OF WORRYING ABOUT WHAT WE DONT HAVE

A Twenty-Three years old serving National Youth Service Corps (NYSC), Miss Tawose Modupe, has been allegedly murdered by a man she engaged to teach her how to drive.

The suspect, Festus Udoh, 29, allegedly lured the victim, who until her death was serving in Ogun State, into a forest where he killed her.
She was declared missing last Saturday, and after investigation and search, the Ogun Police arrested Udoh, who confessed of murdering her.
The suspect told the police that he lured her into a forest, near Abule Ayo in Mawuko village in Odeda Local Council of the State.
Udoh confessed to killing the lady because she threatened to inform her parents that she was raped by the suspect.
The State Commissioner of Police, Mr. Ahmed Iliyasu, who paraded the suspect, said he had confessed to committing the crime.
The commissioner explained that the police received complaint of missing person from the State Coordinator of the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC), Mr. John Okon, and “immediately went into action.”
The suspect confessed that he dragged the girl into the bush, had sex with her and later strangled her to death.
When asked how he knew her, he said: “I knew her where she came to learn how to drive. My boss asked me to get Learner’s Permit for her at Oke-mosan, a suburb of Abeokuta.”
“She did not come to collect the permit and, after a week, she called that she wanted to collect it. I told her I was no longer at the driving school and she agreed to come and collect it.
“ I called her to come to Lafenwa, a suburb of Abeokuta and collect it. She came to Lafenwa and I later told her I wanted to have sex with her. She disagreed. I dragged her into a nearby bush and had sex with her. I killed her when she threatened to report me to her family. I tore her cloth the strangle her. ..”
The police said: “We went for a technical screening of fact left behind by the last person she made contact with, who is also the suspect. We were able to arrest him.
“She registered with him in a driving school by name Lizzy Driving school in Abeokuta.
“The man tactically and deceitfully convinced her on Saturday evening that her driving permit was ready.
“She decided to answer to his call and he cleverly and deceitfully brought her to this forest where he had a forceful and unlawful carnal knowledge of her and thereafter, strangled her to death.
“The passport photographs of the suspect were found at the scene of the incident which is a remarkable scene of crime evidence,” he said.
PAB saw the remains of the victim at the crime scene, naked as her jean trouser, was half removed while her shirt was torn.
The commissioner said the victim’s family had been contacted. He called on members of the public to be careful of the kind of persons they deal or relate with.

A Very Special Bank Account

Imagine you had a bank account that deposited N86,400 each morning. The account carries over no balance from day to day, allows you to keep no cash balance, and every evening cancels whatever part of the amount you had failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out every Naira each day!
We all have such a bank. Its name is Time. Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever time you have failed to use wisely. It carries over no balance from day to day. It allows no overdraft so you can’t borrow against yourself or use more time than you have. Each day, the account starts fresh. Each night, it destroys an unused time. If you fail to use the day’s deposits, it’s your loss and you can’t appeal to get it back.
There is never any borrowing time. You can’t take a loan out on your time or against someone else’s. The time you have is the time you have and that is that. Time management is yours to decide how you spend the time, just as with money you decide how you spend the money. It is never the case of us not having enough time to do things, but the case of whether we want to do them and where they fall in our priorities.

THE RIGHT PLACE

A mother and a baby camel were lying around under a tree.
Then the baby camel asked, “Why do camels have humps?”
The mother camel considered this and said, “We are desert animals so we have the humps to store water so we can survive with very little water.”
The baby camel thought for a moment then said, “Ok…why are our legs long and our feet rounded?”
The mama replied, “They are meant for walking in the desert.”
The baby paused. After a beat, the camel asked, “Why are our eyelashes long? Sometimes they get in my way.”
The mama responded, “Those long thick eyelashes protect your eyes from the desert sand when it blows in the wind.
The baby thought and thought. Then he said, “I see. So the hump is to store water when we are in the desert, the legs are for walking through the desert and these eye lashes protect my eyes from the desert then why in the Zoo?”

The Lesson: Skills and abilities are only useful if you are in the right place at the right time. Otherwise they go to waste.

4 TIPS ON HANDLING CONFLICTS IN A RELATIONSHIP

4 TIPS ON HANDLING CONFLICTS IN  A RELATIONSHIP

1. DONT ARGUE IN PUBLIC:
Conflicts should never be dealt with in a setting where other people can eavesdrop in. What ends up happening is either you or her will feel like you have been put on the spot. Like before maintain your composure and wait until you get home before continuing. And if she is the one that starts the conflict, then in a calm manner let her know that you two will deal with it later and then talk about something else

2. KEEP YOUR EMOTIONS UNDER CONTROL
Don't let emotions get out of control, keep your cool even if she's screaming in your face. Yes I know how hard it can be to keep your cool. but try your best to keep your emotions and especially your ACTIONS under control. it will make things a lot easier and allows you to see her side to the story without letting your animal instincts come out and try to "win" the argument.

3. REALLY LISTEN TO WHAT SHE IS SAYING
Don't do anything else but listen to her.
There is a reason why the issue came up. shut up and listen to her viewpoint while having zero judgments. look past what she's saying and really see how what she's saying impacts the relationship. when she realizes that you are really listening and trying to understand her viewpoint, she will lower her defenses. This will cause her

4. DON'T LET IT BECOME IMMATURE
You are not going to make things better by calling her names or making friends pick sides. This is something that only you and her will have to deal with. it is good to get another person's perspective on things but ultimately, how the issue is handled should be up to you. And please do not resort to being  physical with her.