A Very Special Bank Account

Imagine you had a bank account that deposited N86,400 each morning. The account carries over no balance from day to day, allows you to keep no cash balance, and every evening cancels whatever part of the amount you had failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out every Naira each day!
We all have such a bank. Its name is Time. Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever time you have failed to use wisely. It carries over no balance from day to day. It allows no overdraft so you can’t borrow against yourself or use more time than you have. Each day, the account starts fresh. Each night, it destroys an unused time. If you fail to use the day’s deposits, it’s your loss and you can’t appeal to get it back.
There is never any borrowing time. You can’t take a loan out on your time or against someone else’s. The time you have is the time you have and that is that. Time management is yours to decide how you spend the time, just as with money you decide how you spend the money. It is never the case of us not having enough time to do things, but the case of whether we want to do them and where they fall in our priorities.

THE RIGHT PLACE

A mother and a baby camel were lying around under a tree.
Then the baby camel asked, “Why do camels have humps?”
The mother camel considered this and said, “We are desert animals so we have the humps to store water so we can survive with very little water.”
The baby camel thought for a moment then said, “Ok…why are our legs long and our feet rounded?”
The mama replied, “They are meant for walking in the desert.”
The baby paused. After a beat, the camel asked, “Why are our eyelashes long? Sometimes they get in my way.”
The mama responded, “Those long thick eyelashes protect your eyes from the desert sand when it blows in the wind.
The baby thought and thought. Then he said, “I see. So the hump is to store water when we are in the desert, the legs are for walking through the desert and these eye lashes protect my eyes from the desert then why in the Zoo?”

The Lesson: Skills and abilities are only useful if you are in the right place at the right time. Otherwise they go to waste.

4 TIPS ON HANDLING CONFLICTS IN A RELATIONSHIP

4 TIPS ON HANDLING CONFLICTS IN  A RELATIONSHIP

1. DONT ARGUE IN PUBLIC:
Conflicts should never be dealt with in a setting where other people can eavesdrop in. What ends up happening is either you or her will feel like you have been put on the spot. Like before maintain your composure and wait until you get home before continuing. And if she is the one that starts the conflict, then in a calm manner let her know that you two will deal with it later and then talk about something else

2. KEEP YOUR EMOTIONS UNDER CONTROL
Don't let emotions get out of control, keep your cool even if she's screaming in your face. Yes I know how hard it can be to keep your cool. but try your best to keep your emotions and especially your ACTIONS under control. it will make things a lot easier and allows you to see her side to the story without letting your animal instincts come out and try to "win" the argument.

3. REALLY LISTEN TO WHAT SHE IS SAYING
Don't do anything else but listen to her.
There is a reason why the issue came up. shut up and listen to her viewpoint while having zero judgments. look past what she's saying and really see how what she's saying impacts the relationship. when she realizes that you are really listening and trying to understand her viewpoint, she will lower her defenses. This will cause her

4. DON'T LET IT BECOME IMMATURE
You are not going to make things better by calling her names or making friends pick sides. This is something that only you and her will have to deal with. it is good to get another person's perspective on things but ultimately, how the issue is handled should be up to you. And please do not resort to being  physical with her.

A student asked a teacher, “Why often people marry a different person than they fell in love with?”  The teacher said, “in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the best wheat and come back.  But the rule is that you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.”  The student went to the field, went through the first row, he saw one big wheat which he instantly liked, but he wonders that maybe there is a bigger one further.  Then he saw another bigger one, but again he thought that maybe there is an even bigger one waiting for him.
Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he started to realize that the wheat is not as big as the ones he let go off, he started to realize that he had missed the best one in the search of a bigger.  So, he ended up going back to the teacher with an empty hand because he just wasn’t able to forgive himself for letting go of the best wheat and described what happened.  The teacher told him, “You kept looking for a better one while letting go of the best one and later when you realize that you have missed that, you can’t go back.  This is the mistake often made by people who fell in love and lost the best person they could have in their life”.
So, the student said, “Does that mean, one should never fall in love?”  The Teacher replied, “No Dear,  Anyone can fall in love if they find a suitable person.  But, once you truly fall in love, you must never let go of that person due to your anger, ego or comparisons with others”.
“How do they end up marrying someone other than they loved?” the student asked.  The teacher said, “in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is same as before, you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.”  The student went to the corn field, this time he was careful to not to repeat the previous mistake.  When he reached to the middle of the field, he picked one medium corn that he felt satisfied with and went back to the teacher.  He described how he made a choice.  The teacher told him, “This time you didn’t came empty handed.  You looked for one that is just nice, and you had put your faith that this is the best one you can get.  This is how one makes a choice for marriage.”
The student stood confused.  The teacher asked, “What is bothering you now?”  The student replied, “I am wondering which would have been better, marrying a person you love or loving the person you marry”.  The teacher replied, “It’s a very easy answer, only if you are willing to admit it to yourself”.

Moral:  Life is like a basket of fruits. Either you have to make a choice of eating the fruit you love or be content with something that is healthy!  Choose wisely else you may have to spend your life wondering, what if..  As long as you stay true to yourself and honest, you can’t go wrong with any of these two choices.

HOW IT USED TO BE
FLASH BACK FRIDAY

I remember how it used to be
When nothing else matter but you and me
Music, goals and future dreams

I miss you, I wish you could see
Although you are here, I miss you and me

I remember when you said how happy I made you and you really meant it.... Now its just a phrase you say without thinking

I miss those days when you would call, just to say "hi" or "I love you" the days it was so hard just to say good bye for a while.....

 

I remember how wonderful it felt, the first time you held me in your hand and after all those years, you still made my heart melt

 

I miss the old you, the old me 

The old us that could just sit and talk for hours

and never run out of things to say

I remember when time simply stood still 

When in each others arm is the only place we wanted to be forever

I miss us, as i remember how it used to be

When nothing else matter but you and me

P.S: The poem was originally written by someone i don't know, as i was surfing the net, i came across it and felt so many of us can relate to it. so i decided to put it up on my blog. its flash back Friday. we can all have something to flash our minds back on

I

 

 remember how it used to be
when nothing else matter but you and me
music, country roads, and future dreams.

I miss you, I wish you could see
although you are here, I miss you and me.

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/how-it-used-to-be

I remember how it used to be
when nothing else matter but you and me
music, country roads, and future dreams.

I miss you, I wish you could see
although you are here, I miss you and me.

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/how-it-used-to-be

I remember how it used to be
when nothing else matter but you and me
music, country roads, and future dreams.

I miss you, I wish you could see
although you are here, I miss you and me.

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/how-it-used-to-be

I remember how it used to be
when nothing else matter but you and me
music, country roads, and future dreams.

I miss you, I wish you could see
although you are here, I miss you and me.

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/how-it-used-to-be

I remember how it used to be
when nothing else matter but you and me
music, country roads, and future dreams.

I miss you, I wish you could see
although you are here, I miss you and me.

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/how-it-used-to-be

I remember how it used to be
when nothing else matter but you and me
music, country roads, and future dreams.

I miss you, I wish you could see
although you are here, I miss you and me.

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/how-it-used-to-be

I remember how it used to be
when nothing else matter but you and me
music, country roads, and future dreams.

I miss you, I wish you could see
although you are here, I miss you and me.

I remember when you said how happy I made you
and you really meant it...now, it's just a phrase
you say without thinking.

I miss those days when you'd call just to say "hi"
or "I love you"...the days it was so hard
just to say good-bye for a while.

I remember how wonderful it felt the first time
you held me in your arms-and how after all those
years you still made my heart melt.

I miss the old you- and the old me
The old us that could just sit and talk for hours
and never run out of things to say.

I remember when time simply stood still-
when in each other's arms is the only place
we wanted to be...forever.

I miss us as I remember how it used to be...
when nothing else matter but you and me.

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/how-it-used-to-be

I remember how it used to be
when nothing else matter but you and me
music, country roads, and future dreams.

I miss you, I wish you could see
although you are here, I miss you and me.

I remember when you said how happy I made you
and you really meant it...now, it's just a phrase
you say without thinking.

I miss those days when you'd call just to say "hi"
or "I love you"...the days it was so hard
just to say good-bye for a while.

I remember how wonderful it felt the first time
you held me in your arms-and how after all those
years you still made my heart melt.

I miss the old you- and the old me
The old us that could just sit and talk for hours
and never run out of things to say.

I remember when time simply stood still-
when in each other's arms is the only place
we wanted to be...forever.

I miss us as I remember how it used to be...
when nothing else matter but you and me.

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/how-it-used-to-be

Be Thankful

I know you know a lot of positive things to be thankful for,  ( food, shelter,

clothing and life itself) but today being our Thankful Thursday on PA's blog, i will love to show you some things to be thankful for.

Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire... if you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don't know something... for it gives you the opportunity to learn

Be thankful for your limitations.... they give you opportunities for improvement

Be thankful for the difficult times.... during those times you grow

Be thankful for each new challenge.... which will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes... they will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you are tired and weary... because it means you have given your all

It  is easy to be thankful for the good things .... yet, a life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are thankful for set backs

Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive .... find a way to be thankful for your troubles and they can become your blessings.

“He won’t let me go” its just a common word in most relationships. In the midst of battling the reasons whether they should stay in their relationship or if it is time to walk away, they find comfort in believing that the man must love them because he refuses to bow out peacefully. Granted there are many situations that the man is truly in love with the woman, but do not always be fooled.

A lot of times what is really happening is that you’re just too damn convenient. You are too beneficial to this man for him to dare let you walk away. We all see women everyday who basically are the mothers to the men they are with. They do it all and sexual benefits are included. They take care of everything, carry the financial burden, and allow the man to get away with way too much. He can cheat on her and disrespect her. He can break her mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Yet because he insists that he wants to be with you when you’re ready to leave you actually start to buy into the “he won’t let me go, so he must love me” perception. If he really loved you he would not do half the things I just listed. He would not wait until you’re ready to leave to finally step up his game (he will step it up long enough to reel you back in but then it is back to the same old negative behavior). If he actually loved you then his heart would weigh heavy on him when he knowingly and continuously brings you stress, unhappiness, and hurt. A man who loves his woman cannot continuously watch his woman in pain and be OK with it. Some situations are not this extreme but the principle remains the same. He keeps you around and fights for you because you’re his meal ticket. So why would he let that go.

Love has nothing to do with it and a woman needs to be honest with herself. She should not continue to feed herself a lie due to her fear of a failed relationship and being alone. At the end of the day, I nor does anyone else have all the facts to your situation. So our opinions are somewhat limited. As a woman you have to trust your intuition more because rarely does a woman not know the answer deep inside. For those that are spiritual I do know somebody that does have all the facts and that’s GOD. So when you’re in a situation where you really don’t know where you stand with your partner then lean on GOD’s guidance. Because believe me, that man can and will say whatever is necessary to keep his benefits going but GOD will only tell you to do what is beneficial for YOU. Don’t keep telling yourself and others that “he won’t let me go”, because the real issue to consider is why do you continue to allow him to stay.