Peace A drops her Gospel Debut Album "Jesus Revealed"

 

Peace Atulaegwu, musically known as "Peace A." Who is a graduate of Electronics Engineering and a Cloud IT Consultant, is a song writer, worship leader, inspiring worshiper, and her songs are known to create an atmosphere of God’s presence. Not only does she make awesome gospel music, her lyrics which are rich in God’s word and revelation are nothing short of compelling. For Peace A, Music isn't merely a profession or a hobby; Music is Life and one way we express ourselves to God.

Jesus revealed is her Debut Album, it talks about and reveals the person Jesus.

So without further delay, Lets join Peace A "To Lift Heaven High and have our souls blessed through the album "Jesus Revealed.

The Album is available on all digital platforms 

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When Life Throws You Problems for Breakfast

Let’s be honest, problems are forever.

They’re part of the package deal called life. You’ll wake up tomorrow and have problems for breakfast. You’ll jump on the bus and read a problem in your email inbox. You’ll get to the office and get a problem smack bang in your pretty face. 😅

And guess what? That’s normal.

But here’s the good news: most of the typical problems we face can be solved. It’s all in how you choose to respond.

Problem: You Didn’t Reach Your Goal

Just because you set a goal doesn’t mean it’ll automatically come to life.

Some of life’s most meaningful goals require multiple attempts, setbacks, and a whole lot of resilience.

Maybe you’ve been chasing:

• Your dream career

• The right amount of money

• Your dream house

• A thriving business

• Better health

• A happy marriage

• Enough savings to build a school or company

• Growing your audience to 100K followers on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, or Twitter

And yet… nothing seems to be happening.

It’s frustrating. You feel like you’re stuck in a loop.

But hear this: Even the most successful people miss their goals.

Yes, even the ones who write books, give TED talks, and talk about personal growth on social media. They’ve all tasted disappointment too.

💡 The Solution

Try a different approach.

Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is not persistence, it’s insanity.

If one way didn’t work, maybe there’s another route.

If the door didn’t open, maybe there’s a window you haven’t seen.

• Learn from your last attempt.

• Let go of the pressure to have it all figured out.

• Give yourself permission to grow through the failure.

And here’s the part no one tells you:

The best part of achieving a goal isn’t the goal itself, it’s who you became on the journey.

If all your goals were easy, they wouldn’t mean anything.

You wouldn’t even feel joy when you arrived.

So don’t quit.

The beauty of goal setting is knowing you’ll fail sometimes… and doing it anyway.

Because failure doesn’t mean you’re not worthy.

It just means you’re learning and learning is what makes your story worth telling.

❤️ Final Word

So tomorrow, when life gives you another problem for breakfast, don’t panic.

You’ve handled worse. You’re stronger than you think.

And one day, that problem will become a part of your testimony.

Keep showing up. Keep trying again. And never be afraid to change the method.

You’ve got this.

BREATHING WITH NO AIR

A boy once asked a wise old man, what the secret of success is. After listening to the boy's question, the wise man told the boy to meet him at the river in the morning and he will be given the answer there

In the morning, the wise man and the boy began walking toward the river. They continued on into the river, past this point of the water covering their nose and mouth. At this time, the wise man ducked the boy into the water.

As he struggled to get out, the wise man continued to pitch him further down, The boy felt a fish slip by his leg and squirmed to get up even harder. The man eventually pulled the boy's head up so he could get air. The boy gasped as he inhaled a deep breath of air.

The wise man said, What were you fighting for when you were under water?
The boy replied, "Air!" The man said. "There you have the secret to success. When you want to gain success as much as you wanted air when you were under water, you will obtain it. That's the only secret"

THE MORAL
Success starts with the desire to achieve something if your motivation is weak your results will follow suit. Think about what you desire the most in life and work towards getting it. Don't allow your environment or other people to influence the things that you truly want. Just because the fish swimming by is comfortable with being under water doesn't mean that you are.

DIRTY MONEY

A well-respected speaker began a seminar by showing an audience of 150 people a crisp $100 bill. He asked, “Who wants this $100 bill?” All 150 people nodded.

He said, “I am going to give this money to someone, but first….” Then he proceeded to crumple the bill up. He asked the crowd again if anyone wanted it.

All 150 hands went up in the air.

The speaker then dropped the money on the floor and stomped all over it.

He then raised it in the air to show the crowd. The money was filthy.

“Does anyone want it now?”

Every hand went up.

The speaker proceeded to tell the crowd that no matter what he did to ruin the money, people still wanted it because its value remained the same. It was still worth $100.

The Moral:

Life often beats us up to the point where we feel inadequate. We deal with bad circumstances and make bad choices that we have to deal with later. However, no matter what you go through, your value will remain the same. You have something special to offer that no one can take away from you.

Struggling Will Make You Stronger

“Once upon a time, a man found a butterfly that was starting to hatch from its cocoon. He sat down and watched the butterfly for hours as it struggled to force itself through a tiny hole. Then, it suddenly stopped making progress and looked like it was stuck.

Therefore, the man decided to help the butterfly out. He took a pair of scissors and cut off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily, although it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man thought nothing of it, and he sat there waiting for the wings to enlarge to support the butterfly. However, that never happened. The butterfly spent the rest of its life unable to fly, crawling around with small wings and a swollen body.

Despite the man’s kind heart, he didn’t understand that the restricting cocoon and the struggle needed by the butterfly to get itself through the small hole were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings to prepare itself for flying once it was free.”

A good life is a life of struggle. This is because struggle makes you stronger, and strength is the source of freedom. It's obvious how struggling against heavy weights in the gym or struggling against a steep mountain while hiking makes you stronger. Your muscles respond to such challenges by growing. Struggle comes with freedom, go ahead earn it and be successful.

Challenges are not threat they are opportunities. Struggle makes you stronger. 

LET GO OF YOUR STRESS!

A Psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the "half empty or half full" question. Instead, with a smile on her face, She inquired: "How heavy is this glass of water?"

Answers called out ranged from 8 to 20.
She replied. "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my arm, If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."
She continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed- incapable of doing anything,"

It's important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!

LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES

Thomas Edison tried two thousand different materials in search of a filament for the light bulb. When none worked satisfactorily, his assistant complained, "All our work is in vain. We have learned nothing."

Edison replied very confidently, "Oh we have come a long way and we have learned a lot. We know that there are two thousand elements which we cannot use to make a good light bulb.

POSITIVE THINKING

Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply "If I were any better, I would be twins!

He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! you can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it? Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood." I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life,"
"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.

"Yes it is," Jerry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life."

I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it. Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him.
Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body. I saw Jerry about six months after the accident,
When I asked him  how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?"

I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. "The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or I could choose to die. I chose to live."

"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, 'He's a dead man. "I knew I needed to take action,"
"What did you do?" I asked.

"Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes.' I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply... I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Bullets!, Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."

Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors and God, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that everyday we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.

                                                                                               By Francie Baltazar-Schwartz

FACE DIFFICULTIES POSITIVELY

The Parable is told of a farmer who owned an old mule. The mule fell into the farmer's well. The farmer heard the mule praying or whatever mules do when they fall into wells.

After carefully assessing the situation, the farmer sympathized with the mule, but decided that neither the mule nor the well was worth the trouble of saving. Instead, he called his neighbours together, told them what had happened, and enlisted them to help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well and put him out of his misery.

Initially the old mule was hysterical! But as the farmer and his neighbors continued shoveling and the dirt hit his back, a thought struck him. It suddenly dawned on him that every time a shovel load of dirt landed on his back, HE WOULD SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP!

This he did, blow after blow. "Shake it off and step up... shake it off and step up...… shake it off and step up!" He repeated to encourage himself. No matter how painful the blows, or how distressing the situation seemed, the old mule fought panic and just kept right on SHAKING IT OFF AND STEPPING UP!

It wasn't long before the old mule, battered and exhausted, stepped triumphantly over the wall of that well! What seemed like it would bury him actually helped him.... all because of the manner in which he handled his adversity.

THAT'S LIFE! If we face our problems and respond to them positively, and refuse to give in to panic, bitterness, or self-pity.

Your Talent Only Matters If You Are Somewhere It can Be Used

“A mother and a baby camel were lying around under a tree.

Then the baby camel asked, ‘Why do camels have humps?’

The mother camel considered this and said, ‘We are desert animals so we have the humps to store water so we can survive with very little water.’

The baby camel thought for a moment then said, ‘Ok…why are our legs long and our feet rounded?’

The mama replied, ‘They are meant for walking in the desert.’

The baby paused. After a beat, the camel asked, ‘Why are our eyelashes long? Sometimes they get in my way.’

The mama responded, ‘Those long thick eyelashes protect your eyes from the desert sand when it blows in the wind.’

The baby thought and thought. Then he said, ‘I see. So the hump is to store water when we are in the desert, the legs are for walking through the desert and these eye lashes protect my eyes from the desert then why in the Zoo?'”

Don't Assume you are going to Fail

During a research experiment a marine biologist placed a shark into a large holding tank and then released several small bait fish into the tank.

As you would expect, the shark quickly swam around the tank, attacked and ate the smaller fish.

The marine biologist then inserted a strong piece of clear fiberglass into the tank, creating two separate partitions. She then put the shark on one side of the fiberglass and a new set of bait fish on the other.

Again, the shark quickly attacked. This time, however, the shark slammed into the fiberglass divider and bounced off. Undeterred, the shark kept repeating this behavior every few minutes to no avail.  Meanwhile, the bait fish swam around unharmed in the second partition. Eventually, about an hour into the experiment, the shark gave up.

This experiment was repeated several dozen times over the next few weeks. Each time, the shark got less aggressive and made fewer attempts to attack the bait fish, until eventually the shark got tired of hitting the fiberglass divider and simply stopped attacking altogether.

The marine biologist then removed the fiberglass divider, but the shark didn’t attack. The shark was trained to believe a barrier existed between it and the bait fish, so the bait fish swam wherever they wished, free from harm.

IGNORE HATERS

IGNORE HATERS

A group of frogs were traveling through the forest when two of them fell into a deep pit. When the other frogs saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that there was no hope left for them.

However, the two frogs ignored their comrades and proceeded to try to jump out of the pit. However, despite their efforts, the group of  frogs ignored their comrades and proceeded to try to jump out of the pit. However, despite their efforts, the group of frogs at the top of the pit were still saying that they should just give up as they would never make it out.

Eventually, one of the frogs took heed of what the others were saying and he gave up, jumping even deeper to his death. The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the group of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and to just die.

He ignored them, and jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said, 'Did you not hear us?

The frog explained to them that he was deaf, and that he thought they were encouraging him the entire time."

MORAL LESSON: Turn the hate and bad advises into positivity.

Be Kind To Others Even If It Hurts You

"In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him.

'How much is an ice cream sundae?'

'50 cents, " replied the waitress.
The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied a number of coins in it.

'How much is a dish of plain ice cream? he inquired. Some people were now waiting for a table and the waitress was a bit impatient.

'35 cents,' she said brusquely.
The little boy again counted the coins. I'll have the plain ice cream,' he said.

The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the icecream, paid the cashier and departed.

When the waitress came back, she began wiping down the table and then swallowed hard at what she saw. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish were 15 cents- her tip

Moral: Be kind to People even if it hurts.

Your Reaction Matters More Than What Happens To You

YOUR REACTION MATTERS MORE THAN WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU


"Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn't know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. it seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot,and ground coffee beans in the third pot.

He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing.

After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in  a bowl. He pulled the boiled eggs out and placed them in a bowl.

He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup. Turning to her he asked. "Daughter what do you see?

'Potatoes, eggs and coffee,' she hastily replied.
' Look closer,' he said and touch the potatoes. "She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled  egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.

' Father what does this mean? She asked

He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity- the boiling water.
However, each one reacted differently.

The potato went in strong, hard and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.
The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard.

However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.

'Which are you, 'he asked his daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door how do you respond?
Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean?

The Elephant And The Rope

Your attempt may fail, but never fail to make an attempt.

Here's one of the most empowering short stories I have lately read. The author is unknown but its message is of utmost importance

As my friend was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from the ropes they were tied to but for some reason, they did not. My friend saw a trainer nearby and asked why these beautiful, magnificent animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away.

"Well, he said, "when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size of rope to tie them and, at that age, it's enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free. " My friend was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn't they were stuck right where they were.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before?

How many of us are being held back by old, outdated beliefs that no longer serve us? How many of us have avoided trying something new because of a limiting belief? Worse, how many of us are being held back by someone else's limiting beliefs?

Whatever you can conceive and believe, you can achieve!

CHOSE not to accept the false boundaries and limitations created by the past.

STOP WASTING YOUR TIME COMPLAINING

People visit a wise man complaining about the same problems over and over again. one day, he decided to tell them a joke and they all roared with laughter.

After a few minutes, he told them the same joke and only a few of them smiled.

Then he told the same joke for a third time, but no one laughed or smiled anymore

The wise man smiled and said: 'You can't laugh at the same joke over and over. So why are you always crying about the same problem?"

Moral: Learn to laugh through it all and stop complaining, complains dont bring solution. Be patient, This too shall surely come to pass.

The Blood by Peace A

Peace Atulaegwu better known by Her stage name Peace A, is an Engineer, A blogger, A song Writer, A leader and an Inspiring Worshipper. Her Songs are known to create an atmosphere of God's presence by the Power of the HolySpirit at work in Her and Through her. Not only does she make awesome music, Her lyrics are rich in God's word and revelation and are nothing short of compelling. The Blood her third studio single, talks about the things the Blood of Jesus does for us and to showcase the Power in the Blood of Jesus

Download here

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The Power Of An Apology

Social Psychologist know that an apology leads to forgiveness, can recover a spoiled relationship, and may heal indignity. Saying "Sorry" denotes that you have chosen your relationship over your ego. Yet so many of us can't find the strength within us to admit our fault. Lets see what the main benefits of apologizing are, What the main obstacles are that hold us back from saying "I'm Sorry", and how to make a genuine apology.

THE BENEFITS OF APOLOGIZING

Apologizing is vital, since it helps to smooth any conflict and re-establish a spiritual connection with the partner. If you master the act of apologizing. it will help you reduce relationship stress and to move on from conflicts and tensions. There are many proven benefits of apologizing.

1. When you say that you are sorry, it restores the dignity of the hurt person and makes them feel better. The offended party, who receives the apology, develops empathy towards the offender, which then transforms their feeling of hurt into forgiveness.

2. An apology may restore trust and understanding to a relationship, because it contributes to a feeling of safety and makes both the receiver and the giver feel comfortable and respected. Apologizing therefore helps you and your loved one stay emotionally connected and strengthens the bond between you two.

3. When you make a sincere apology, and this trust and understanding gets restored, a person can start to see you in a different light. They will have a greater tendency to overlook your flaws and highlight your virtues.

4. As Guy Winch, psychologist and author of Emotional First Aid, reckons, "An effective apology doesn't just heal the wound for the other person, it will dissolve your guilt too." Eventually, you develop a sense of self-respect and the ability to move on quickly. it also serves as a deterrent, so that you dont repeat the same mistakes again\

Why is it so difficult to say "I'm Sorry"?

I'm Sorry"- This simple phrase is so hard to pronounce sometimes. The underlying reasons for this are varied, but the most common are:

1. When you apologize, you admit that you may be wrong, which is a threat to our ego and our pride. You should learn how to be objective and admit your mistakes, and not to allow your egocentrism to blind you.

2. Some people see an apology as a confirmation of guilt and as a result of responsibility for the conflict. They mistakenly believe that if they apologize , then the other person wouldn't realize his or her own wrong behavior. This is false. Apologizing  in fact opens the lines of communication and stimulates empathy  and understanding on both sides.

3. The apology is viewed as a means to draw attention to the mistake. This leads to a misguided implication that its better to ignore or deny offenses and hope that nobody will notice. But it doesn't matter how little the mistake is; if there is hurt involved, you should apologize rather than let it fester.

4. The person thinks that he or she is the one who deserve an apology first, so they wait for the partner to apologize. But this can be toxic for the relationship. Don't wait, make the first step: apologizing will only increase your self-respect, not diminish it.

5. The person might see an apology as a way of dwelling on the past, when they just want to move on. But if you move forward without first analyzing and understanding your actions and the hurt they caused, then you are likely to repeat your mistakes in the future.

6. Some people assume that apologizing is a sign of weakness, but actually it is a hall mark of strength. it is an act of generosity and an expression of hope for  a recrudescent relationship  it is in fact an act of bravery, because it subjects people to the risk of humiliation

7. The person believes that he or she is not worthy of forgiveness. They cling to excuses like he or she will never forgive me, so why should i even try? But thoughts like these can be extremely destructive to a relationship.

TIPS FOR GIVING A GENUINE APOLOGY

If you want to make a heartfelt apology and make the offended person feel better, then try to stick to these tips.

1.When you are sorry, mean it Deep regret goes further than just saying you are sorry. Deep regret says that if i could turn the clock back, and if i could do anything about it, i would have liked to have avoided it. "But before apologizing, recognize your fault and make the apology specific.

2. choose the timing carefully. A person might need time to heal wounds, but you shouldn't let grievances take root in the heart. Speak up if you are sorry for something you have done, and let them know that you are ready to discuss it when they are.

3. Take responsibility for your actions. Don't be defensive and don't look for excuses and explanations. The message, "I take responsibility for being angry and hurting you yesterday," is coherent and direct. Forget about any "buts" in your speech.

4. The manner is important. Make sure that your body language expresses what you feel. Always apologize in person, make eye contact, keep arms uncrossed, put away your phone and focus on the person. These clues will help show that you really do want to rebuild trust.

An apology cannot change what has been done, but it can help to ease the tension and relieve stress. Apologizing gives hope for rebuilding. if you value the relationship, then an honest apology can make the relationship go a long way

Relationship Wednesday (Self Love)

Relationships

Good relationships are the foundation for success in all areas of your life.


This begins with your relationship with yourself. If you do not love yourself entirely and actively ensure your own needs are met, you will find it difficult to do the same for others.
Know this: However you treat yourself is how you will treat others. This is why, ironically the most selfless thing you can do is to be self centered (albeit not selfish).

Once you love and accept all aspects of yourself completely and treat yourself that way, once you become grounded and centered in your being, serving and empowering others will come naturally.

Imagining and looking back at yourself from the end of your life, ask yourself right now, "How well did I love myself? Was I my own best friend? Was I completely honest with myself?"
You see, it is easy- without realizing it- to neglect the one person in your life who is your partner in everything that you do and are: you
Practicing self love not only involves making sure your needs are met; it also means not subjecting yourself to environments, perspectives, relationships, and other commitments that dis-empower you.

Don't worry so much about being rude. It is more detrimental to both yourself and the other person to keep commitments that you are unable to uphold, then it is to cut the tie and be free, if you feel you are being anchored down

Ask yourself: "What kind of people did I surround myself with? Who supported me in fulfilling my destiny, and how did i support others in realizing theirs?" I n life, you can either unconditionally accept the relationships that are handed to you, or you can create connections that you find mutually fulfilling.

Ask yourself: "If I could do it over again, what values do i look for in a friend, life partner, mentor and business partner? What kind of brother, sister, son, husband, wife, father, mother, friend, teacher and student and what have i been?

RELATIONSHIP VALUES
You will also want to adopt a strong set of values to support your relationships. The ones i have chosen are Generosity,  assertiveness, discernment, and forgiveness.

GENEROSITY
There is no such thing as a stingy lover. It is good to give freely- with no strings attached. You will find that by being generous, others tend to respond favorably to you. What you give comes back to you in different ways. Generosity is one of the greatest virtues a person can embody, in my opinion.

ASSERTIVENESS
It is also crucial that you assert yourself in your relationship with others. Ask yourself, "Does the person with whom i am in a relationship with share my vision for our relationship. Whether it become romance, friendship, or business? Do you have the strength to set up boundaries and say "no" in your relationships? What are those boundaries? Are you honest and transparent with yourself and others, and are you able to assert your wishes clearly and respectfully?

Don't allow people to trade on you, bring you down, or take from you without permission. Knowing how to say "no" in relationships is as important as understanding how to say "Yes".

DISCERNMENT
Discernment is the ability to take a step back and assess whether your current relationships are resourceful to you or not.
Looking somewhat objectively at you life, you will realize which relationships are not resourceful for your greater vision. Maybe those friends who play video games every waking hour or not your crowd. Perhaps that woman, as beautiful as she is, might not be the best one for you to marry.
Whatever the case may be, you have to be discerning enough to examine your relationships.
Are the people in your life those whom you want to be surrounding yourself with, and are they supporting you on your mission?
The people with whom you associate have tremendous impact on your character and on your legend. As Jim Rohn said, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." That is to say, if the five people you associate with are lazy, then you yourself may adopt that tendency.

FORGIVENESS
And finally, forgiveness is key.

Don't throw stones, because we all live in glass houses. The understanding that you yourself are imperfect- Just like everyone else - is  a prerequisite for being able to forgive. Give people the benefit of the doubt, without being naive.

Often times, forgiving the other person is better than "winning" an argument. It does not mean that they are justified in their error, but reprimanding them for their actions usually does not accomplish anything.
Forgiving someone else is as much for you, if not more, then it is for the other person.

CONCLUSION
Your relationship with yourself is the first and foremost most important thing that you could cultivate if you want to improve your outside relationships in general. It is the foundation of your character and how you interact with the world.

How To Regain Broken Trust In A Relationship

Trust is the rock upon which all relationships exist. if that rock is chipped away by deceit,over time the foundation crumbles.

When something more serious happens such as infidelity in a marriage, the trust and foundation are broken in an instant. it is not easy to rebuild trust but it is possible.

Whether the trust is broken between a friendship or a marriage, the steps and formula for overcoming the broken trust are the same. In any relationship where trust is broken, both parties must be willing to work through the brokenness in order to heal the relationship. It is not a one sided process.
When the party who has been hurt does not want to reconcile because the hurt is too deep, then the relationship cannot be restored. Likewise, if the offending party does not want to own up to their wrong doing that broke the trust, then the relationship cannot be restored in that situation either.
Both sides must be willing to come to the table and be open, honest, and vulnerable. They must also care enough to want to put forth the effort that is required to make the relationship work again. It is not a one sided process.

In fact, it requires a great deal from both parties involved. There is a question to ask before you embark on restoration of the relationship: "is the person and relationship you had worth the emotional effort?" It's only a question you can answer for yourself. If you answered yes, and the other party has also said yes, then the formula below will help both parties work through the broken trust so the relationship can be restored.

The good news is that when using this formula, both parties can become more emotionally healthy and the relationship can be strengthened.

When trust is broken and both parties are willing to do what it takes in this formula to make the relationship work, then that relationship is strengthened and enhanced.

Some of the enhancements may include greater closeness, improved transparency, sincere vulnerability and open communications that create a better, longer lasting relationship.

HOW THE COME FORTH FORMULA REBUILD TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP

The Come forth formula is a process that couples can go through to regain trust in their relationship. This process works for marriages, romantic relationships, friendships, co-workers, family members and more.
The goal of this method is to have healing to restore the relationship and for trust to be fully established once again.
The COME part of the formula is for the party that is the offender This is the person who did something that broke the trust in the relationship.
The FORTH part of the formula is for the receiving end. The person who was hurt and whose trust was broken is to use the FORTH part of the formula to work through the hurt to learn to trust again.
The COME FORTH formula is for both parties to work through the broken trust to help heal the relationship and themselves. It is not an easy or quick process for either party. It requires commitment, vulnerability, openness, and a willingness to communicate from both parties. When the come forth formula is completed correctly, the relationship can be restored.

FOR THE OFFENDER COME

 C: COME CLEAN
Now is the time to come clean about whatever it is that you have done to wrong your loved one, friend, co-worker, or someone else who you hurt by breaking their trust. it is better for you to admit your wrong doing and genuinely seek forgiveness before they find out from someone else.

• Before you approach the individual to come clean, know what you are going to say.

Make sure your heart is in a state of seeking forgiveness and wanting to heal the relationship by telling them.If you are angry and blaming them for your wrong doing in any way, then you are likely to cause more division rather than getting on the right path toward healing the relationship.

• When you are coming clean, begin with letting the other person know how much you value them which is why you are coming clean
• Show your remorse
• Be the calming force in the storm

O: OPEN YOUR SELF EMOTIONALLY

Once you have completed the first step and have come clean about your offence then the next step is to be open emotionally. What this really means is that you need to listen to the sincere thoughts and emotions from the person you have hurt.
1. Listen with empathy
2. Ask for forgiveness
3. This is also a time when you, the offending party, need to do some soul searching

M: MAKE MEANINGFUL CONVERSATIONS

Meaningful conversations following the coming clean and asking for forgiveness is the next step in the process of healing the broken trust. When emotions have calmed and anger has begun  to subside, the other party may be willing to sit down and hear why you did what you did.
Again, it is never appropriate to place blame back on the victim. Instead use what was revealed to you in your soul searching process as  a starting point for making meaningful conversations.
If the other person cares for you and your relationship then they will want to help you process through whatever fears or emotional difficulties you are experiencing that caused you to violate their trust.

• Talk openly about those fears and what caused you to do what you did to them.

It helps the other person realize that the issue was not with them. For example, you didn't cheat on your spouse because you didn't find them appealing anymore. It was because you have fear of abandonment issues. Talk about that fear and open up to the person you hurt. They deserve to understand why it happened. this will also help to lift the burden of responsibility from them.

• Understand the root cause

Finding out the real cause underneath of why the trust was violated helps those who have been victimized feel less burdened by any feelings of responsibility for the cause of the trust violation. The goal is understanding the root cause and the underlying emotional issues. so that healing can happen in the relationship.

E: ENGAGE IN FULL TRANSPARENCY

The fourth step for the person who has violated trust in the relationship is to engage in full transparency. This should be something offered up before even asking. if you are the offending part, you should desire for them to trust you again.

• Transparency will help bring back the trust

For example, if you were part of a charity planning event and you took money from the event for personal use, then you need to be fully transparent with the accounts and paper work with the other individuals working on the event.

FOR THE VICTIM: FORTH

F: FORGIVE

Forgiveness is the first step in healing the relationship on the end of the victim. Holding onto the hate, anger, and negative feelings will only make you feel worse.

• Let those feelings go by allowing yourself to forgive.

This doesn't mean that there aren't consequences, which you will come to terms with while engaging in meaningful conversation with the other person.

For example, If it is a situation where infidelity has occurred, then the transparency with phone and email records and such moving forward would be a consequence of the violation of your trust.

forgiveness means that you are willing to work through the wrong doings that occurred that broke the trust. You are willing to care for this person enough that you want to work with them emotionally to process through the pain to restore the relationship.

• If they haven't admitted their wrong doing, give them a few days after you discuss the matter initially. There are many times that the person who broke the trust is found out before they admit what they did wrong. They should still get the chance to come clean and make things right. This means that there must be a willingness to forgive before they even admit their wrong doing.
• Approach the person with empathy: You never know what kind of other issues they are dealing with in their heart, mind, and soul. Give them the courtesy of kind words and a calm tone of voice, for the sake of your relationship.
• If after your chosen time period of allowing them to digest your conversation they are still not willing to admit their wrong doing, you can take it to the next level.: This would be seeking someone of higher authority for counsel. This could, For example, be a marriage counselor in the case of infidelity.

O: OPEN CONVERSATIONS

This is the time when you need to share with the person who hurt you, how they hurt you.

• You need to express yourself using "I feel" statements: Expressing yourself with statements that begin with "I feel" approaches     
• A Word to the wise: Do not begin the blame game. If you start blaming them rather than using "I feel statements" then they are going to get on the defensive. 
• Write down the specific "I feel" statements before you go to the person in conversation: Again, do not approach the person with a group. Rather, the conversation is to be one on one. if you take multiple people or even one other person, they will feel that you are ganged up on them.\

R: REQUEST WHAT YOU NEED TO GET BACK TO A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

This step goes hand-in-hand with the "O: Open conversations" Now is the time to discuss what happened and how things can be resolved.

• You need to discuss how the trust was broken, what is required to heal the relationship, and how your relationship will work moving forward: It is important that your requirements and expectation for the other party are reasonable. if you set the bar too high and expect too much, you are setting the person and relationship up for failure.
• Set reasonable expectations to regain trust: Things such as transparency with phone records, text and emails going forward is a reasonable expectation, Discuss these matters without making demands. Talk about what would make you feel comfortable and help to rebuild the trust. if the other party cares enough, they will be willing to meet your reasonable requests.

T: TALK ABOUT THE BETRAYAL TO A CONFIDANT OR PROFESSIONAL

Talk to a wise counsel on the matter of your trust being broken.

Talking with someone else will help you gain better understanding of the situation and your own feelings.

It will also help you process the emotions you have on this matter.
Allow yourself to open up to someone who can help you through this situation.

Using a professional such as a counselor is always a wise choice when seeking help about deeply personal matters.

• Don't keep your feelings inside

Trust broken can bring up all sort of feelings, emotions, and even past unresolved issues. When you keep these things inside and never unburden yourself emotionally by talking through things, you allow the emotions to fester.

H: HEAL YOURSELF TO HEAL THE RELATIONSHIP

Depending on the level of the pain inflicted and the sort of trust that was broken will determine how much healing you need. if for example, you found out that your spouse has cheated on you with your best friend, you are going to need some serious healing. This wont happen overnight. it involves time, patience with yourself, and professional help when needed.

A counselor is definitely recommended in situations of infidelity. Not only for couple

's counseling, but also for individual therapy for each party. The person who has been victimized has a lot to overcome emotionally.

Here are some ways that you can find healing process:

Find a support group for the particular experience you are going through.
Though there may not be support groups for all kinds of trust violations, there are for the major violations such as infidelity.

• Seek Individual counseling from a professional

As mentioned before, seeking professional help is good for both you and your partner.

• Journal about your experience.

Journal about your current feelings, and where you want yourself and the relationship to be in the future.

• Avoid bashing the person who broke your trust.
• Get all your questions answered.

HITTING THE RESET BUTTON ON THE RELATIONSHIP

When both parties have resolved to work through the broken trust to save the relationship then you can hit the reset button together. What this means is that you are both willing to work through the COME FORTH method to heal yourselves and the relationship.

You can't just say "Let's start over" because that won't solve any of the problems or heal the emotional issues.

You need to apply the COME FORTH method to work through it together and individually. Doing this will indeed reset the relationship and set it up for greater success.